A step by step guide to finding the best care home - Part 3
Checklist of questions to ask a care home.
Take a photo of the care home before you go in, so that subsequent photos will remind you which home you took them in.
1. How is food cooked, is it freshly prepared on the premises, frozen or delivered? 2. What time is food served and is there a dedicated dining room? Can your relative eat in their room if preferred? Are mealtimes flexible? Are special diets catered for? Can residents prepare their own drinks and snacks? Can residents choose what and when they eat? Does the home cater for relatives and friends to eat with residents? Is there a garden and outdoor space? Is this space accessible for residents with dementia? If your relative is a smoker are there dedicated areas? How many lounges are there and is there one without a TV? What activities are going on in the communal lounges whilst you are visiting? If your relative has reduced mobility are there hand rails/a lift/ramps? What are the languages spoken in the home? Does the home encourage residents to do as much as possible themselves and make their own decisions about how they live their lives? Are there visiting times? To what extent can residents bring in their own personal possessions? Can they bring in their own bed for example? Can residents choose what time they get up and go to bed? Is there a telephone point in the room? Does the room have an en suite shower/wet room? What is the view like out of the window? What size is the room? Is it just a bedroom that is being offered or is there a kitchenette? Does the home have apartments with a separate bedroom and living area? What floor is your relative likely to be living on? Usually residents with dementia are on the first or second floor, ensure there is outside space or that residents are regularly taken out for fresh air. What activities does the home offer? (Take a photo of the activities board). Are books available and can newspapers be delivered? How are valuable items kept secure? Do residents have their own GP? Is there a residents committee? Are toilets available and accessible in all parts of the home? Can wheelchairs go everywhere, including outside? How often can residents have a bath and is the bathroom warm and welcoming? Is there a hairdresser? Are other services available i.e. a manicure or massage? Do chiropodists/opticians and dentists visit the home regularly? Does the home provide end of life care or would the resident need to move if their care requirements changed? Can a relative stay overnight if necessary? Does the home offer respite care or a ‘try before you buy’ option? What are the staffing ratios? These vary depending upon the type of care offered.
My wife Doreen is disabled and has Alzheimer's. If that were not enough, she recently fell and broke her arm! At that moment my life changed, as I was no longer able to continue caring for her.
A friend suggested that I talk to Debbie. We arranged a meeting at which she advised that I should have a plan for the future; we first agreed that the plan should be to get Doreen back home. Debbie recommend that I get Doreen out of hospital as soon as possible and into a care home for respite, advising me what to look for when selecting the home (vital). We further went into any requirements our own home might need to enable Doreen's safe return. Once home, Home Care will be needed, and Debbie again had all the contacts to provide this to meet my needs.
I will not go into other offerings on her menu - needless to say she has all the answers and was able to lift the burden from my shoulders at a very stressful time. A very big thank you Debbie as our plan is beginning to take shape.