3rd May 2016

My wife doesn't recognise her husband anymore...

Very few experiences prepare you for the responsibility that comes with looking after the partner you have loved and shared your life with and counted on for years - particularly if they are at the mercy of dementia and now rely on you for everything.

Your desire to do the best for them whist trying to remain healthy, fit and capable yourself, is becoming increasingly difficult and emotionally draining.  It's leading to challenges in all aspects of your life, leaving you overwhelmed, frustrated and - all too often - desperately lonely.  But it's still hard to admit that you need help.

As a first step to redressing the balance for both of you, pick up the phone and talk to us.  Chosen with Care offers a personalised service that helps ease the pressure by finding the ideal care home solution for your dear partner, meaning you can concentrate on providing unstinting emotional support and love.

Now that my husband is beginning to settle into his care home, I wanted to write and thank you for all your help and expertise in finding a suitable care home for him at a time when I was finding life very difficult. I do not think I could have managed without you. I appreciated your practical support in organising all the visits and even return visits with other members of my husband’s family. Your knowledge of how to assess a home and to know what to look for in any assessment cut out hours of my time trying to understand reports, particularly at a time when I could not think straight. Your understanding of my emotional situation was a real blessing. Although the care home we chose is not in my immediate neighbourhood, I am still convinced that it suits his needs and he will settle in well to this new environment. To find an expert in the unchartered waters of care homes at a time of personal distress was wonderful. Very many thanks. With every good wish